teens

Straight Talk from Teens

“When I realized that I was making a decision about a specific boy, and not just any random teen, it made a difference.” 

Karrie, a Salt Lake Region foster parent, was referring to the difference it made in her ability to make a decision. As she considered what children she might care for, she was thinking about age ranges. But later, as she considered the specific children, her focus became the child and she found herself no longer looking at the child’s age. This realization didn’t just make a difference in her decision-making. It also made a difference…a big difference…in the lives of teens she has since cared for.

Each year, Utah Foster Care hosts a number of special events that focus on educating prospective foster parents about fostering teenagers. At the events, you will get to hear from local foster families and teens themselves.

You’ll hear questions like… “How do you deal with sibling rivalry?” “Do you have children the same age and how do they fit together?”  “Do you recommend caring for children younger than yours or older?”  “What can you do to build a relationship with them?”  And to the teen on the panel, “How long did it take you to feel trust? How long before it felt like your home?”

These aren’t just teens IN FOSTER CARE.  They are TEENS, who happen to be in foster care. And the foster families on the panel seemed to emphasize that, reporting that friends and neighbors have all experienced situations with their own children that aren’t much different than what they have seen as foster parents. 

About half of the children in foster care are teens.  And caring for teens has its benefits—like no diapers and they feed and dress themselves. Yet, our staff members struggle to find enough families for all of the children who are ready to be placed in a family setting. For some reason we get scared by the age, when perhaps a better focus when determining our capacity to care for them would be the youth’s behavior and needs.  As one of the panelists put it, “You think you’re scared?  Think how scared these kids are.  The stakes are higher for them.”

Our Ask a Foster Parent events focusing on teens are listed at https://www.facebook.com/pg/utahfostercare/events/. Don’t hesitate to call us if you have questions. We’ll be glad to help explain the process and get you started.

We are available for online appts. and training for new foster parents. Call or email!
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